Premature Ejaculation is one of those “taboo” subjects that no one ever really feels comfortable talking about, this leads to alot of misconceptions and stigma to be associated with it when in fact it is much more common than people think. Premature Ejaculation is what happens when a male reaches orgasm and ejaculates quicker than he or his partner would like. Roughly 30 percent or 1 in 3 males globally experiences premature ejaculation at some point in their lives, I know I have.
This can cause feelings of inadequacy, loss of confidence in yourself both sexually and mentally, and can be damaging to your mental/emotional health if you focus on it too much. It can become a self fulfilling prophecy to where the more you think about and obsess over it, the more likely it is to happen. This can be triggered by depression, stress and performance anxiety which again can sometimes make itself worse when you compound it with confidence issues or relationship problems. It can however be caused by physical factors as well, such as hypertension, thyroid issues, diabetes, erectile dysfunction or even prostate disease. It can however be dealt with in a few ways depending on the root cause.
I recommend you discuss with your doctor first if it’s becoming an issue between you and your partner as they may be able to determine the underlying physical factor and provide medications such as Viagra, Levitra or Cialis if it’s related to E.D. or they may schedule a prostate exam or examine your thyroid. If however, it is not caused by a physical factor but by behavioral, mental or emotional ones then there is still hope and I recommend you see a therapist, especially with your partner. Preferably a “Sex-Therapist” as they are specially trained and have dealt with this issue many many times, I assure you.
There are behavioral techniques one can use to refocus and retrain yourself
You need to be comfortable with your partner first and foremost in order to feel safe. There is the “start/stop” technique where you or your partner masturbate you just until you almost reach orgasm then stop. Wait 30 seconds and continue to repeat the process 5-6 more times. Doing so will build up a resistance to ejaculating too early, think of it as any other form of exercise! Over time you will learn to control your orgasm easier. There is also the “squeeze” method that is similar to the method described above but just as you go to reach orgasm, you or your partner grabs the head of your penis and squeezes with moderate pressure (not enough to cause pain!) until the erection subsides. You then repeat the process like you would for the “start/stop” method. Both of these methods act the same way and build a physical resistance to early orgasm. A technique I personally used when I was younger was doing equations in my head before I reached climax. I would start with simple addition or subtraction a
nd the closer I came to finishing the more complex I would make them, eventually using multiplication and division. Reciting your timetables in your head works too. It’s all a matter of distracting the mind so it doesn’t feel the physical: a sort of mind over matter if you will. You don’t have to use math, you can use anything that interests you: baseball scores, hockey lineups, etc. If, after trying these techniques for awhile doesn’t improve your “staying” power there are still other options and medications that can be used to treat premature ejaculation. Antidepressants and certain pain relievers like Tramadol or even numbing creams or gels may be effective in dealing with P.E. But before using any form of medication please consult your doctor first.
Wearing a condom has been shown to desensitize the area and make men last longer, also masturbating before you have intercourse has been shown to also help with staying power. I hope this article was informative and has helped put into perspective how common P.E. is and how it can be treated. It starts with yourself and your confidence. Now go get her Tiger!